Sometimes when we feel deeply hurt, frightened, or betrayed, the psyche reaches almost instantly for anger. Anger can feel warm. It can feel powerful. It can feel safe. For many people, it once was necessary. It protected us when we had few other options.

In addition to the trauma, there is a ton of self-criticism. So part of the unconscious conversation when we get activated is a judgement, a criticism about being activated. One part of self being nasty to another part. So this compounds the trauma, makes the experience more acute. The solution is compassion.

The greatest aspect of helping people is being both a witness and partner in their transformation and the depth of connection which takes place in our hearts and souls.

Sometimes the challenges of life can be too difficult to face alone. With the help of a caring, nurturing, non-judgmental advocate, I can help you face these challenges with integrity, dignity and courage. 

Compassion and communication skills are the foundation of family therapy. We teach and promote a style of non-judgmental listening that nurtures the seeds of compassion.

What awareness is necessary when dealing with issues of addiction?

To a large extent family therapy consists of identifying and exploring issues that previously have been avoided, ignored or misunderstood.

The most challenging thing in maintaining healthy communication with our children, is the ability to manage our own emotions.

Working on yourself, is like being your own coach. The best coaches combine firm discipline with a love of their work and a respect for the person they are coaching.

We hear a lot these days about the concept of self-love and it remains one of the biggest challenges in dealing with trauma. However, for many it is often easier to cultivate an attitude of loving others. Or so it seems.

What would you suggest someone do when their date reacts poorly to finding out that you're sober?

If it comes to a neurosis, we invariably have to deal with a considerably intensified shadow.

In my opinion one of the most destructive aspects of early trauma is an avoidance of emotions - our own and others - however this does not need to be permanent condition.