Compassionate Couples Therapy in New York City
When Connection Becomes Difficult
When connection becomes difficult, even love can begin to feel like a problem.
You may find yourselves having the same argument again and again. One of you reaches for connection while the other pulls away. You may feel criticized, misunderstood, rejected, or simply exhausted.
Sometimes the original problem becomes secondary to the pattern that develops around it.
One person pursues.
The other withdraws.
One becomes angry.
The other becomes defensive.
Both feel unseen.
And the cycle repeats.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
My couples work is informed by Imago Relationship Therapy, which focuses on slowing these cycles and patterns down — to create a different kind of conversation.
Rather than deciding who is right, we work toward understanding what is happening between you and learning how to bring something different into that space.
You will develop practical tools for listening, communicating, and responding rather than simply reacting.
Over time, couples can begin to move from blame toward curiosity, defensiveness toward understanding, and isolation toward connection.
The goal isn't to eliminate differences. It's to learn how to navigate them without losing one another.
Hear from previous clients:
“Scott was kind, balanced, and compassionate. He made us both feel comfortable and able to open up about tough subjects in a way we had trouble doing in our own relationship, creating a safe space for navigating conflict that we were able to learn to build for ourselves.
We are really glad we found Scott and we greatly appreciate his help in bringing us closer together.”
– Mike and Dana
Appointments: Meeting in Person or Online
Couples therapy sessions are available virtually, or in person in Upper Manhattan. We’ll discuss what works best for you during your initial consultation.
Rediscovering Yourself Within the Relationship
Relationships can sometimes pull us away from parts of ourselves. We may become less playful, less curious, less affectionate, less confident, or less alive.
Couples therapy can provide an opportunity not only to strengthen the relationship, but to reconnect with those parts of yourself. The aim is not to become someone else. It is to become more fully yourself—and learn how to bring that self into a relationship.